It is not a trivial matter and the well-meant advice "Then get Just back!" is not the answer: almost one in three students at secondary schools is being bullied, about every 10th Students were victims of physical violence. They are results of a study at the University of Lüneburg .
bullying was, of course, has always held - any classmate / a classmate to while the group on the Kieker had and / the one that made life difficult, there were in each grade level. But the number of bullied children and teenagers but has grown rapidly. And the quality of bullying has changed. We know the reports of brutal attacks, which are filmed by mobile phone camera - will be forwarded to friends and proud to finally show up youtube and co. And in addition to the mental pain then add to this is the exposure to the public.
The consequences are numerous: many bullied children and young people pull back, rarely meet with Friends - a real loss of enjoyment of life. Also occur in children and adolescents frequently bullied abdominal, back or headache, and sleep on.
are clear on that issue is not only the teachers have a duty - but above all the parents. Once children meet less frequently with school friends, suddenly reluctant to go to school and act depressed, you should be aware. But even if your children behave discreetly - Your children have in mind. And if you discover that your child is an offender: Get help! False pride, "We can do it alone!" and possibly put pressure on the child means nothing since. Everywhere in Germany there are free counseling services. These two points of contact are just two of many in Berlin:
- youth consultancy compass.mitte
- family counseling at Immanuel Diakonia in Berlin
And parents ... You have not anything in his hand. And many developments which undergoes a child and young person can not or hardly be influenced by the parents. But there is nevertheless much of what we have in hand. So listen to it just to trim your children to always to be the best (how many times I hear something on the playground ...). And teaches your children, confident, and not even to be fair. Teach your children to recognize their own needs and to accept - as well as the needs of the child in the sandbox over. And let but please, please, comments like "The boy did you put away your shovel and they will not play, then you have to time it properly cut your fingers!" - "? The child has thrown sand Then kick back once, then it will soon see how that is!"
Seriously now - this must really be.
I'm gonna be for adults as far as it goes out to keep children out of relationships so that children can try out each other, can learn social skills through play. But if you have to intervene, but please be supportive pro-social behavior. And not supportive per elbow behavior.
